It also means that sometimes my participation will be needed, and sometimes it won’t. For example, if someone around me makes a transphobic remark, I have the safety of being cis to call them out on what they’re saying. What I say will be heard and taken more seriously than if a trans person were to make the same point. On the other hand, there are spaces and conversations that I don’t need to be an active participant in. Trans people talking about their experiences and what they want out of trans allies isn’t a time to interject, whether to say “I don’t act like that”, or “I disagree with that, I think it should be done differently”. Allyship is listening to the groups you are attempting to stand by, not talk over them to get your point