Love is a powerful and an inseparable part in people’s life. However, love does not always stay “perfect forever”. The pain of parting of two souls can be destructive and may seem intolerable. Yesterday you may have had plans and hopes, and today everything is broken into smithereens. The end of a relationship needs time to heal wounds, to set you to daily life without crying, moaning, and a desire to return back to normal. How one can stop thinking about someone he or she still loves and is emotionally attached? It may be a very long process to recover emotionally from a break up, but it is possible to ‘heal’ with a discerned approach, which can be described in several steps: the counsel of a therapist or a trusted friend, …show more content…
Many people underestimate the value of counseling that a reputable therapist can offer. The matter is that when you undergo through such distress, your feelings overwhelm you and thus don’t allow you to think clearly. It is important to look at your situation from a different angle. A good counselor can detect your emotional weaknesses and determine a plan for recovery. Your best friend can also be a great source of getting an alternative scope because he or she is not affected by hurt feelings and emotional pain. There are also some good recommendations given by a therapist Dr. Judith L. Allen in her article, “The End of a Relationship: How to Recover from a Broken Heart.” Allen highlights importance of the idea, “…to seek help if the time seems extensive and protracted, beyond what would seem a normal time to each person, or if there seems to be no progress in the healing (346).” So, as you feel hopeless, hurt, and depressed at this stage of your life, it’s necessary you give yourself time to mourn about your loss. Do not ignore feelings; let your emotions pour out. With the timely help of a ‘second hand’ you will find a door to positive thinking to faster …show more content…
In this stage, when you do not feel the pain and bitterness any more, it allows you to go back to analyze the issues of your relationship more clearly without being biased. Now, you are able to make wise conclusions and learn a lesson even out of a bad experience. You need to go through this process if you want a revived perception of healthy relationship with another partner. Eventually, you will want to offer a positive ‘you’ to someone you will feel affection to. Reexamination of your former relation is the key to further successful relations. On your way to integrated harmony of your renewed life, you want to remember about your dreams, goals, and future that will set your direction. Such approach can help you to focus on the things that really matter to you. Recognizing the things you value or want to achieve will navigate you in making smart decisions and keep you focused on your destination. It is a rewarding outlook you can acquire in the midst of unpleasant circumstances to the way where you find yourself “in fine