Always, be clear, not critical. You can’t avoid addressing things that need to be changed. But you can address them in ways that don’t make your child feel bad about himself. Instead of saying “Why do you always leave your room in such a mess?” you can say “This room is messy. Put down your game and put away your laundry.” Also, be able to recognize that mistakes are learning experiences. Don’t ignore mistakes. Help your child find the “next time you can” in them. For example, you could say, “Yep, you spilled the juice. Next time you’re pouring the juice, you can hold your glass over the sink.” Lastly, make praise efforts and let your child know that effort is as valuable as the end result. Find ways to praise your child for working hard on the school assignments/projects at school and home that he does as well as for fun. For example, you could say, “Your hard work practicing your singing is really showing when you play that song.” These are some of the things kids would seem to understand and keep a positive attitude and high self-esteem about