Marriage has been known to have a disparity between the partners. In today’s world the disparity ratio between married couples has balanced out significantly. In the past century men have predominately remained the breadwinners, but also looking for some more time at home. And quite complementary, more and more women have been pursuing careers instead of remaining a house wife. This shift in our marriage customs have brought many couples to look for that equilibrium input from each other into their relationship. Many people such as Hope Edelman find this balance of family roles to be an uphill battle in her piece “The Myth of Co-Parenting: How It Was Supposed to Be. How It Was.” Alongside her, Eric Bartels has had hostilities within his marriage. In his piece “My Problem with Her Anger,” we can see the vivid struggles that his marriage must endure. While both authors are striving to address the many emotional conflicts that their pursuit of a balanced marriage has brought, Edelman approaches these conflicts with defensible acts, while Bartels is…show more content… “How much longer do you realistically think I’m going to put up with this crap? (55)” is the result of this and it implies that out of all of these small arguments none have come to a resolution. If we go back to look at her assumption on how her marriage would operate, “If I’m going to contribute half of the income, then he’ll contribute half of the housework and child care. (51)”, and use the implication we found as a result of her first outburst, we can now start to see how she is suggesting equal amount of effort must be put into these problems to reach a mutual agreement. These mutual agreements are essential to achieving the “ideal”
