I believe in “being fake”.
I believe that despite your inner intentions, you should always present yourself as best as you can, even if you are very passionate about disagreeing with others. What I do not believe is to flaunt or brag to people, but let people believe that your best is what you really are. Everyone has positive and negative traits, but if you can have everyone in your life perceive you as a genuinely great person, then you will lead a more successful life.
Being the Debbie Downer, a pessimist if you will, is the most powerful way to destroy the outward appearance that one must strive for. The majority of people aim to surround themselves with positive energy, and being pessimistic is practically a request to be left alone,…show more content… For example, I ran an experiment on my classmates, which nobody but me was aware of, where in several different classes, I acted very differently. In one class, I acted angry and grumpy the entire class, made no jokes, and sat quietly. In the other class, I used a powerful voice, clever jokes, and held a smile the entire time. The results were not exactly shocking, but more eye-opening, for the first set of classmates I experimented on ended up not really talking to me, not asking me for help, and even struggling through things even when I would offer help (it was almost a mutual pessimism of sorts). The second class gave the opposite response, as expected, where they would make jokes with me, and always offer and ask for help. So really, the connection was just much stronger and happier in the second case than in the first one. By being positive and outgoing, it inspired others around me to act the same way, and added to my and their learning experience. This was when I realized the importance of extroversion and outward…show more content… For example, with colleagues, peers, and also people you don’t see yourself making a friendship with are people who you probably should utilize your immense outward positive to make their only memory of you a good one. This will also help because if you are ever asked about, they will tell of their only recollection of your personality, which should be positive! When you are with people that you really want to establish a longer friendship, you need to be as genuine as possible so that your relationship is not built on “lies”. In general, you should still try to be positive with your close friends and family, but be true to yourself and express when you like or dislike something they
