Loving others in life especially family members, due to family feuds, can be challenging, but “the most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in,” which was said by Morrie Schwartz. Throughout the novel, Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood, cherishing family and friends is an ongoing issue. By the end of the novel, the broken relationship between Sidda Walker and her mother, Vivi Walker, is mended. Sidda and Vivi Walker both come to realize how important their relationship is. Even though Vivi and Sidda fight with one another, Sidda comes to understand her mother’s unseen love for her: “I see lightness and ease. I see suffering somewhere in my mother’s eyes, but I also feel the camaraderie. Laughter.…show more content… Sidda knows that even though that her mother is suffering, Vivi still eventually feels a sense of laughter and friendship with Sidda. Throughout her life, Vivi deals with many personal burdens such as alcoholism and her true love, Jack, dying in war. Sadly, Vivi lets her struggles affect her relationship with her four children and also her husband. To cope with her difficulties and stress, Vivi beats her children. Vivi also leaves her children and husband many times because she does not realize, until later, the effect she has on her family. The unstableness in Sidda’s family causes Sidda, as an adult, to not be able to easily trust or love other people. As an adult, Sidda writes negative points about Vivi in The New York Times. Sidda’s actions cause Vivi to never want to speak to Sidda again. Sidda’s father and the Ya-Ya’s, who are Vivi’s childhood friends, cannot but want to help and comfort Sidda. Sidda becomes unhappy with her life because of her damaged relationship with her mother and the confusion if she should marry someone who she truly loves, Connor McGill. Sidda decides to go stay in Seattle alone to think about and reflect on her life. Sidda learns that she truly misses Vivi and also Connor. Sidda writes many letters to Vivi trying to mend their friendship, but Vivi does not have the same desires as Sidda. Eventually, with the help of the Ya-Yas,…show more content… Sidda and Vivi relationship is broken due to Vivi’s past, which causes her to physically and emotionally hurt Sidda, and Sidda also hurts Vivi through what she says about Vivi. Their relationship is rebuilt through forgiveness. Through the lives of Sidda and Vivi, the lesson of not forgetting how important relationships with family and friends are can be learned. Even though struggles do show up in the lives of people, one must learn how to overcome the burdens and not let them affect their life too
