Dubus To My Father Analysis

While reading this memoir, I could definitely see the respectful, yet distant stance the Dubus felt towards his father. One time that this stance particularly stood out to me was on page 862, his father had just come home for the first time in weeks and Dubus rushed downstairs to see him. Then he records, He turned from the mirror and said, "So you know about Betsy then?" The air in the room felt thicker somehow, "Yeah." He reached into his wallet and pulled out a photograph. He handed it to me, "That's her." It was of a girl I barely remembered seeing before, not the one I'd thought she was. "She's pretty." You can clearly see the respect that Dubus has for his father. I mean as much as I respect my dad, if he was showing me a picture of the …show more content…
The other passage his stance sticks out in is on page 864. He says, "When my father looked down at me over Nicole's small shoulder, I stood as straight as I could, and hoped I looked strong." You can see that Dubus is trying to show his father respect by standing tall and strong, but he also doesn't say anything to his father as he is leaving which again shows the distance that has been created in their relationship. I would say that his stance is appropriate. Everyone deals with this kind of situation differently, and even though I may have ended up being more disrespectful if it were me, I can't say that his stance is inappropriate. I think that this stance shows that by the time he wrote this story he and his father had already started building a relationship again, so he wasn't as bitter as he may have been when this first happened. I honestly think its pretty incredible of him to have had enough respect for his father to have never badmouthed him once throughout the entirety of this story given the circumstances. I know that more than I would be able to say for myself if I were in his

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