I used all kinds of oil when ever a meltdown between the two would occur. For my older girl, we found that hormones may have played a part in her ability to cope, so we used Young Living Dragon Time and Lady Sclareol blends. They seemed to take about 15 minutes to help her settle down and cope. My younger daughter needed Joy and Orange essential oils placed on her diffuser necklace or over her heart. She definately felt brighter after using those oils. We diffuse to get energy down in the evenings. We love Stress Away, a mix of Lavender and Cederwood, Gentle Baby and Hong Kuia (something that popped up on my Zyto scan, that I love). I used a lot of Stress Away applied to my back of neck, pulse points and behind the ears (it smells