Arguably, there is nothing better than having a child in your life, who will love you unconditionally, give the warmest hugs, and say some of the most absurdly beautiful things and much more. But parents can admit that it is not always that rosy as children can sometimes misbehave, and in most cases, you do not know how to go about it. From non-stop crying, hitting, throwing objects at people, biting and even using rude language among others.
Children just like adults often show defiance, anger, and irritability when they feel threatened or afraid. By acting out, they feel a brief moment of relief as it will temporarily numb the pain and aid the sense of powerlessness. This can be intense for parents especially when they feel like they’ve done everything possible to help the situation. It is particularly overpowering when friends, family or strangers judge one based on the assumption that their child’s behavior is as a result of poor parenting.…show more content… Reactions such as spanking, raising your voice, telling them off or assuming them will lead to a more chaotic scenario. In his book, Between Parent and Child, Dr. Haim Ginott says that most of the time, consequences are punitive and keep a child furious and bitter towards you.
Valya Telep of Child Development in Virginia State University advice that parents replace consequences with positive discipline. This helps children learn to control their behavior based on what is right and wrong and not because they fear being punished.
