A few months later, My father unexpectedly died after undergoing kidney surgery. I was devastated because of his death and the death of my friend, I had to rethink what I was doing in my life. I came to an understanding that I didn’t want to practice corporate law. After Barack graduated, I began working in the public service sector. It was 1991 and I had trouble with my career and in my relationship with Barack. I wanted to get married, but Barack did not, he believed marriage wasn’t important. We used to argue over the subject, like at a fancy Chicago Restaurant. I told him that it was time for him to commit to our relationship, but he disagreed. Until the dessert came, I found a box with an engagement ring in it on my plate. Barack said “That kind of shuts you up, doesn’t?” I was shocked and embarrassed. We married on October 3rd, 1992 at Chicago's Trinity United Church of Christ. After our honeymoon on the West Coast, we moved into a condo in the South Side neighborhood of Hyde Park. After we got married, I moved on to another job, in 1993 I became the executive director of Public Allies. In 1996, I joined the University of Chicago as associate dean of student services, developing