An Tran
Human Relations Skills
Chapter 6: Building High Self-Esteem
Self-esteem: belief in one's own abilities and of being capable of meeting life's challenges and being worthy of happiness.
Example: This is my first quarter in college, I'm taking 4 classes. I believe in myself that I will finish this quarter with good grades- A or B. I don't need a C :)
Self-concept: facts, opinions, beliefs, and perceptions about oneself that are present every moment of everyday.
Low self-esteem: negative talking, low achievement, lack of self-confidence, unhappy relationships, negative perceptions of self and others.
Example: I have a friend who has low self-esteem. Whenever he gets a bad grade in class, he always "I suck", and "that's all I can do". I think it's low self-esteem, because he can do better than that and say positive things.
High self-esteem: Positive talking, high achievement, improved self-confidence, rewarding relationships, positive perception of self and others.
Example: I think I have high self-esteem. Because anytime I face a difficult problem, I will find a way to resolve it, not just sit around and wait for a bad result. I also do positive self-talk.
Self-talk: The internal dialogue that is carried on in the privacy of the mind; silently talking to oneself.
Options:
After learning and discussing about this chapter, I learned more about myself. I know something new, which I have never minded before. Positive self-talk can help me to raise self-esteem. I have done positive self-talk for a long time, but I didn't notice. I'm usually worried about what I am about to do. For example, when I have a new schedule for classes, I feel anxious, because I think the classes are going to be hard for me. But when I am in class, study, I tell myself to do the best that I can, and get a grade that fits me most. There are many ways to help self-esteem. However I think there are some inconvenience.
