On the Deception of Human Gregariousness Have you ever felt the scorching, yet unbearably cold pain of feeling lonely in a crowded room? When the silence in your head is so loud it drives you insane? When you’re completely surrounded by nothing but familiar faces yet you can’t help but feel utterly isolated? This is the result of the deception of human gregariousness. As social animals, humans have always had an appetite for gregariousness, or social ambition. We surround ourselves with others whom we feel comfortable with and expect these very people to lift us up beyond a common bound with their mere presence. But what happens when you select a certain score of people and have no expectations of them besides providing you with intimate, genuine, and sincere company? What happens when you have nothing to offer the others? You find yourself invisible in the midst of a school of ambitious fish; fish ambitious for self-prioritized agenda and personal goals. You see, we’re all using each other to achieve what we desire most in the moment, simultaneously, without even noticing the others’ agenda. We feed off of each other and in mutual light, it works well for us. But when one person removes himself/herself from the equation, the machine continues to work without breaking down flawlessly. Why? Because we are too blinded with our own aspirations to notice it. If you take away all the senseless and meaningless conversations shared, you’re left with next to no substantial intimacy or companionship at all. We’re taught to seek camaraderie at a young age and that, in turn, is what convinces us that what we’re doing, essentially, is making friends and creating partnerships. In actuality, our brains have hardwired us to relentlessly pursue our greatest goals and in order to do so, we seek the help from our peers who may or may not share those same goals. We spend this assistance lavishly until there’s nothing to spend anymore and consequently, we seek another source. These sources appear in a plethora of different shapes and forms. Ranging from social peers to professional guidance and instructors, the people we accept into our lives all play a significant role in our development as human beings. This can also expand to the realm of digital media and any social ambitions in those departments such as social media and video games. Our daily activities and interests contribute greatly to our deceitful view of social ambition. We all know of certain people we don’t necessarily enjoy or like but we force ourselves to work with them in whatever area of our lives it is that they exist in and it’s that forceful attitude that is derived from our innate need to accomplish goals in which we must suck the assistance from other people. Now if you don’t believe that this ideal and concept is necessarily true for all cases and forms of social interaction, then well maybe you’re just trying to be a hipster. Because in actuality, there is a science to this revelation: a very basic neurological observation that breaches correlations between both the frontal lobe and hypothalamus in connecting social
