“Grandma, when you come downstairs to wake me up every morning, I’m not sure if it’s because you are just being nice by getting me up, or if you feel like I wouldn’t be awake up if you didn’t wake me up. Why have you been waking me up every morning?”
My grandmother said that it was because it seemed like I had a hard time getting up in the morning. Then she said, …show more content…
It’s a great way to let the other person see your point of view as well as to try to see theirs. My grandma was able to understand how I felt about her waking me up every morning. I was able to understand her reason for waking me up, and to be more understanding when she continued to wake me up. My friend never told me his reason for why he said what he did, but he was able to understand my feelings about it. Through his actions, I can infer that he wasn’t trying to blame his unhappiness on me, he just didn’t think through what he was saying. Perception Checking is powerful and useful, but it is not always the best choice for communicating with