Having migrated to the US many years ago leaving my world of friends in Africa, it became naturally necessary to fill the void of relationship with people outside my immediate family. I needed someone to trust with some of my life challenges especially in this country at that time. I needed someone that has some basic concepts, social, cultural, professional and educational background with me and not jugdemental. My Relationship with Nnoso started about fifteen years ago as colleques at work based on trust and mutual respect for our individual values. Our relationship has gone through a lot of changed and developments over the years setting the theme right with our individual differences. Initially, my previous relationship put a lot…show more content… Talking of trust, we had peculiar situations as immigrants and that made us become confidants to a certain degree. Trust percent on my part since I have always been a conservative with my life stories not wanting to be judged. My view of the world is a little different but our relationship is based on the right and wrong valves set from our background giving room for conflicting perceptions. For instance, he believes men are “polygamous” in nature and that is society has helped to destroy marriages since men are under a lot of restriction but that freedom in what makes divorc less in Africa while I believe that it is absolutely wrong from Christian point of view. There has been a lot of understanding and negotiation to bring issues especially concerning men’s ego from Africa in America to be resolved because such issue always tried to make him play the superior life style causing conflicts in his marriage and not allowing him room for proper communicate in resolving marital…show more content… Self disclosure and feedback moves individuals more into the unknown are and mke the open area to enlarge for better communication and interpersonal relationship. For instance “if a person says something your are judgmental” the person may be wrong, if two people do, then is a conspiracy if many persons say so, then you have to stop and consider it, checking it not that they are right but there is a reason for that observation relatively and needs to be explored. Feedback should be constructive to help and not to hurt us. It should also focus on behaviours that can be changed, and avoid misunderstanding and emphasis the
