If You Are Not Sure, Don T Do It?

1. If you are not sure, don't do it. There are people who are very offended by what I would think of as even mild obscenities. As a result of having students pull me aside in early in my career, and ask me not to swear (I swore a lot in class when I was a brand new professor), I now rarely swear unless I am quoting someone when I am teaching executives or Stanford students. The one big exception is when I say the name of my book, The No Asshole Rule, or teach a session on it, as it is impossible to do it without saying the word "asshole" a lot.

2. There is a big difference between "backstage" and "front stage" norms. In many places, swearing is private meetings is fine, but is unwise when you are being observed front stage. You can see these norms at play if you listen to the amazing tapes made by both Lyndon Johnson and Richard Nixon, as they swore constantly backstage, but not in public. Of course, you have to be careful not to slip, as when George Bush -- who thought the microphone was off -- commented that a New York Times reporter was a "major league asshole" at a campaign rally.

3. Swearing on rare occasions can be very effective for the shock value. If you swear constantly, then people will barely notice it. But when you do it rarely, it can have a big effect. In fact, this phenomenon helped get me interested in The No Asshole Rule. Years ago, at my department at Stanford, one of my colleagues -- who rarely if ever swears at meetings -- had a big impact on our group by arguing that we should not hire a renowned but difficult researcher because we did not want to ruin our group by bringing in "assholes." From then on, the no asshole rule discussed as a hiring criteria. I believe that if he was the kind of guy who swore constantly, we never would have heard it.

4. The norms of the group or organization are crucial. I have worked in some places that if you DON'T swear you are looked upon with suspicion because, well, that is how everyone talks and it you don't swear, it means you are not part of the group. For example, when I was a teenager, my dad owned a company that sold and installed furniture and the like on U.S. Navy ships, and I worked for him now and then. Everyone in the business swore like

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