Darlyn's Life
Darlyn (Mrs. Dee) was born in 1929, she is 86-years-old. She came from a very strict home. According to (Diana Baumrid, 1967, 1971) research, the authoritarian style of parenting is how Mrs. Dee was parented. She knew with her head that her parents loved her, but in her heart there was a separation. She currently lives in a nursing home and has dementia.
The authoritarian way of parenting is by “law” kind of like the old saying “children are seen, but are not heard.” It can create an unhappy but obedient child (Baumrid, 1967, 1971). Mrs. Dee expressed how she thought her parents were to strict. Her basic needs were met but the love and intimacy from a parent was not there. She has a sister who is younger than her, and she was never close with her. She said she left the home at a young age,…show more content… I don’t really think she has ageism, she tried to stay independent as long as possible and she hated the fact that she had to stop driving and being in a wheel chair because of her knees and back. Elders must find “a delicate balance . . . knowing when to persist and when to switch gears, . . . [and] some aspects of aging are out of one’s control” (Lachman et al., 2011, p. 186). I know this is true for Mrs. Dee. I think Mrs. Dee would fall under the despair category (Erikson et al., 1986) she isn’t really happy with herself or remember any big accomplishments. Her children live out of town and she hasn’t talked to one of her son’s for about 10 or so years, she doesn’t even know where he is. She has been treated for anxiety and depression for many years, she now has dementia really bad so she doesn’t remember much. She does enjoy to have company and to watch people walk through the halls at the nursing home. She is ready to go home to be with the Lord and I don’t blame her, she has had a long life and I am going to be so happy for her that she will finally be complete in that
