In the book Song of Solomon, many family relationships seem too close. One of these is Hagar and Milkman, who are second cousins. When Milkman first met Hagar, it was a true embodiment of love at first sight, a beautiful woman five years older than him. She held the power, but that shifted as time passed and Milkman grew up. He became in control of her emotions, not necessarily her, as she was still living independently from him. Hagar’s love for Milkman is described as an “anaconda love” (137), illustrating her constraining and suffocative attachment. This love is a self-destructive obsession, highlighted further by the reference to “The predator that lived inside her'' (136), depicting her inner turmoil and the detrimental effects of her unrequited love. However, Hagar’s societal position influences her perception of love. Hagar’s societal position, stained by racial and gender-based oppression, significantly wraps her perception of love, making it a pipe for validation and escape from her marginalized status. Her unyielding love for Milkman is a craving for personal affection and an attempt to carve out a sense of worth and identity within a society that renders her visible. This skewed perception drives her to conflate love with obsession, showcasing how systemic societal neglect and discrimination can distort one’s understanding and pursuit of