“You’d probably agree that self-esteem or self-confidence is a healthy personality trait; however, if we exaggerate this trait to a point where a person becomes grandiose, egocentric, or narcissistic, then we’re dealing with something entirely different” (Cavaiola, Lavender 11). In addition to making sure every aspect of their life is perfect, a controlling perfectionist will try and control the lives of the people around them and desire everyone to do things their way. This is what turns those positive qualities into negative and how you can identity if someone is a controlling perfectionist. Although most people with this disorder share the same characteristics like preoccupation with rules, an excessive devotion to work, and having…show more content… In chapter 1, Lavender and Cavaiola list Theodore Millon’s five subtypes of controlling perfectionist, also referred to as “compulsive personality.” These subtypes were the Conscientious Compulsive, Puritanical Compulsive, Bureaucratic Compulsive, Parsimonious Compulsive, and Bedeviled Compulsive. The Conscientious Compulsive has difficulty expressing their feelings and is almost like their are cut off from their emotional life. They lack creativity and depend of set routines, structure and regulations. When given a role as leader, if you don’t live up to their standards, they’ll make negative comments and looks of disapproval. The Puritanical Compulsive have high moral expectations have resentment towards the authority regarding what constitutes acceptable behavior. Someone with this behavior can be found in any big corporations, government agency, or societal institution. The Bureaucratic Compulsive believe their way is the only way of doing things and become moody or anxious when they’re not in charge. They overly identity with their given role or job and become excessively involved in that corporation or institution such as law enforcement, the
