I think the first time Sarah truly understands what Handful is going through is when Handful has an accident on the Grimké's rug. Sarah knew that Handful didn’t mean any harm, so she obviously felt bad for her. Sarah asks her mom, “‘you didn’t punish Hetty, did you? I asked.’ ‘Do you think me inhuman, Sarah? The girl had an accident. What could I do?’” (Kidd 16) If Sarah were in Handful's position and got caught in a situation like this, Handful would have definitely paid Sarah the same respect that she did for Handful. When Sarah's father passes away, Handful understands that Sarah will need time to grieve. While Sarah is grieving, she writes a letter to her mother, informing her of her father’s death. “I wrote a solicitous letter to Mother, explaining the unexplainable: Father had died and I wasn’t coming home straight away. I need to grieve alone.” (Kidd 191) Just like Sarah understood when Handful had an accident, Handful sympathizes for Sarah when her father dies. Handful knows how Sarah deals with grief, so she lets Sarah grieve on her own and does not bother her by ambushing her with letters and notes. This portrays that Sarah and Handful are never oblivious to each other's