Initially, Virginia began to see her first family in private therapy sessions in 1951. She believed doing a therapy which involved the whole family rather than doing a sole member in the family. Virginia came to a conclusion that the problems the person was facing were not actually a problem, however, the problem was how …show more content…
She strongly argued that humans were able to change internally and externally, to a certain extent. Although we do not possess the power to change the past, we can responsibly decide how to deal with the consequences and move on in our life without resentment, which will affect our future negatively in one way or another. She also believed family members should be able to tell each other their self-worth rather than bringing up their past failures, this would encourage them to make better choices in their future. Hope is a large part of change in a human’s life. When a therapist begins to witness their clients true self that is when hope is found and a change in their life may commence.
According to Virginia, feelings belong to you and only you. We can manage our feelings if we learn to deal with such feelings. We can either choose to send feelings in a positive direction such as: love, forgiveness, and peace or send our feelings to a negative direction such as: jealousy, hate, and selfishness. We can always replace any single given feelings with each other at any given time to our …show more content…
When given the option to view their problems in a spiritual way people often change the way they negatively responded to the situation at that moment and converted their problem into a much more positive outcome. By doing this it allowed them to open new doors to much better and new opportunities. The Satir Model offers 4 goals: increasing self-esteem, becoming one's own choice maker, becoming more responsible, and becoming more congruent. Self-esteem is the way a person perceives themselves as a whole. When people have a low self-esteem they do not fully allow themselves to connect with their inner true self, on the other hand if the person has a high self-esteem they have much better control of their personal self, which will cause them to live in a more positive environment. Becoming one's own choice maker contributes greatly with having a high self-esteem. Being able to control one's decisions empowers the person to choose what benefits them greatly in their life rather than choosing what society wants from them. When we learn to control our inner self we then become greatly responsible for our own self growth. We can no longer blame others for our own failures, but we can now expect ourselves to be able to come up with a solution for the problems we face and grow from these problems in any given bad or good situation. When we become