Throughout the time, she has considered answers, but they would all involve very lengthy explanations that might get misunderstood. Even after trying to explain, he would not be able to understand her since he has very different experiences and role in society. She is saying that he has more privileges and that fact prevents him from fully understanding her point as she bases her opinions through her experience and perception as a daughter of an educated man. But since it is so out of the ordinary that a man asks a woman her opinion on something like this, she will do her best to respond. She provides an imagined description of the man who wrote to her: a thinning, gray haired, lawyer, prosperous, a family man, a good person, and well educated. She admits they are both from the educated class, having the same accents, manners, and conversational