With Arnold’s line the attitude has come off to be aggressive and demanding all ready, with Connie trying so hard to grow up and find herself through sexuality, in modern times most women would see this detrimental in the beginning of a girls sexual life, commands and aggressive language does nothing to improve a women self-confidence, but when vulnerable like Connie may seem like the attention that she has been looking for in reality can put her in a dangerous position for her. When she hears the car coming toward her house the reading can see that Connie isn’t fear but too look at herself in the mirror to make her wonder how the driver would perceive her. Finding out it’s the shaggy haired boy from the restaurant the other day, Oates makes sure to have Connie show no pleasure or interest even though the reader can see that she is intrigued but the boy. A little later we find out Connie likes the way Arnold looks as she describes his clothes and some of his physical features but keeping them pretty general and then adding “familiar face” is a generalization that one can conclude Oates wants the audience wants to connect the way Connie describing “all men in general.” However as Arnold keeps talking his language becomes more sexual and more vulgar saying he will come inside her and he will love her, repeating love in different ways getting more aggressive and dangerous the more he talks and the more she pulls away. Arnold is representing the rape type of culture and sexual violence he isn’t asking to do any of the sexual deeds to her everything is an exclamation point to the point no what she wants or what she is comfortable