I agree with the argument made by Marsh Dermer and his colleagues about comparing ourselves with those who are better of creates envy, so counting our blessings as we compare ourselves with those less well off boosts our contentment. I am ashamed to admit that I had personally experienced both. I recall when I was married and better off and living in the Long Island suburbs. My ex-husband and I had constantly comparing ourselves, our cars, our yards, our house, and our kids with our neighbors. It was hard to keep up with the “Jones”. Being homeless after the divorce, I witness and experienced what it’s like to be on the bottom of the social ladder. I had become humble and start to count my blessings because there are many others that have it worse than myself. It could be worst for me.
I agree and take to heart about the Close-up chart on “How to be Happier”. Through