According to Sande, words play an essential role in every conflict. When correctly used, words stimulate understanding and encourage agreement. When misused, they usually provoke conflict and force people apart. (162) In using words in a battle, the person initiating the conversation should use words in a considerate manner. Before conversing with one another, the Writer must remember to seek and acknowledge God in all things for instructions.
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Would it be wiser to communicate in person, on the phone, or by means of a letter? Why? The Writer concurs with Ken Sande that the wiser way to talk to a person is face-to-face because both parties see each other gestures and facial expressions and will understand the variety of tones in one another voice. Sande points out, "communication is most effective when it is done as personally as possible. Oral communication allows you to see how the other person is taking your words, to clarify places where there may be some misunderstanding, and to get feedback before moving to the other issues. These advantages can prevent you from making incorrect assumptions." (173) Face-to-face communication brings a sincere reconciliation. On the contrary letters and phone calls bring on doubt and suspicion. A person can recognize if the person is holding something back or being genuine and honest to the …show more content…
How will you ask for feedback? The Writer will pay close attention to the other party facial expression and body gestures to know what to ask and how to ask to see if the conversation is understood. Sande emphasizes, "Asking questions will promote dialogue and give you an opportunity to measure how well you are communicating as well as how the other person is responding to you." (181) Feedback is to see if both parties information came across in the right way. To see if the information received the Writer concur with the Author to repeat said conversation and asked questions.
In conclusion, the best time to take others with you in a conflict resolution scenario is when the person do not want to hear you or he/she may hear you but twist the words spoken. The Bible says in Matthews 18:17, "If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector." In other words, take a person to stand in the gap as a referee or mediator. If the individual continued not to hear you or the church, then the Writer should break off the