Perfectionism: A Short Summary And Analysis

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“Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, … we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame… (Rosa, 2016).” In my opinion, perfectionism goes hand in hand with the unwillingness to be vulnerable. Truthfully, I strive not to be in a state of vulnerability to avoid the hurt. The more I can control and not show how vulnerable I am, I felt as though I was showing that I was strong and courageous. Brown is correct in that you can’t just numb bad feeling away (Brown, 2011). In some ways, this protective mechanism has limited my ability to connect with others. Furthermore, by hiding behind a wall and not willing to be exposed has been hindering my ability to be a good leader. No one wants to get hurt, but to grow, …show more content…
It should be the opposite and I should have more control and be stronger, but the more I try to control them, the less I have control. Constant self-doubt about am I a good mother, am I doing the right thing, are they going to love me when they grow up, and so one. However, because I love them, I feel as though I must try to embrace my vulnerability. Trying to have open-mind and respect who they are and validating their feelings so that I may have a stronger connection with them. Believing that I’m enough to take care of myself and in turn be able to take care of them. To have a connection with others, you must be authentically willing to let go of who you think you should be and be willingly and fully embrace vulnerability (Brown, 2011). As I become a nurse leader, I need to learn to let go of the imperfection of myself and others. I don’t know everything and it’s ok to acknowledge it, instead of trying to pretend to be perfect. Let go of the control and be willing to be open-minded, respectful to enhance growth. Having the courage to embrace and relate to one’s own vulnerability and that of another contributes to developing a compassionate practice and the ethical formation of nursing care (Rosa,