Personal Conflict Styles Paper

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Personal conflict styles are a dime a dozen. Everybody’s a little bit different, and handling these different conflict styles takes some forethought, and consideration. I’ve evaluated my own conflict styles, and the frequency of which I think I use Non-confrontation, Solution-Orientation, and Control in my day to day conflicts. Answering questions like the ones presented in the Putnam/Wilson Conflict Behavior Scale not only allowed me a system to score how often I use those styles, but provided insight as to how I view myself. The same Putnam/Wilson scale was used by a peer to evaluate me, and that also provided me a great level of insight. Throughout the course of this paper, I will examine my conflict style, and how that relates to documented …show more content…
This can help you to more effectively react and handle conflicts with this individual. Our text speaks to reading patterns through assessments, “Research takes a “snapshot” of conflict styles, asking you what you did in a relationship. For many people, the style changes across time in a given relationship. Some individuals develop preferred sequences of styles; for example, one may begin a conflict by avoiding, then move to dominating, then finally integrate with the other party. The accurate assessment of one’s conflict style should measure change over time to reflect the reality for a lot of people.” (Wilmot 172) Wilmot and Hocker talked there about how over time in a relationship, the conflict styles for each parties can change in frequency of use, and use all together. By analyzing that, one could predict a parties responses to certain conflict, and thus have a better way of handling these conflicts. The individual I selected to conduct my peer review, had a very obvious view of me, and a way of handling my styles. On the Putnam/Wilson Scale, my peer rated me 9.1 on using control for a conflict style. I …show more content…
I need to treat the people I conflict with better. Especially in my personal relationships, those are ones that I really value and want to continue for the rest of my life, and I certainly won’t be able to do that when I’m headed down the path of control that I currently am. I am extremely grateful that this class was able to show me that in my 20’s, and not further down the road when it’s too late to make a change and rectify damaged relationships. I plan to do this through a constant state of evaluation. Part of my problem right now is that I don’t think back on conflicts after I have them. I just forget and move on. That’s no way to conduct my life, and I think it will help me in other aspects as well. Reflecting is extremely important, and I was especially shown that through our weekly journals, they helped me greatly. I will continue to use the things I’ve learned this summer currently, and throughout the rest of my