In sports, I have faced many challenging situations revolving coaching and complex issues within relationships with those in positions of authority. These issues have facilitated the development of many downfalls in my mental health including lowered self-confidence, trust issues, depression, feelings of loss of control and helplessness. I have worked very hard in the past in attempts to resolve these issues with some success but recently I have identified that one source of need for improvement is unforgiveness and unresolved anger toward specific others. For this personal wellness activity, I will be attempting to reconcile with someone from my past in order to give forgiveness, resolve feelings and attempt to release anger. Currently, …show more content…
This activity will involve reconnecting with my high school coach and teacher, as we are old family friends, and have a conversation about the situation, without the pressures of the court. My goal with completing this personal wellness activity is to work on relinquishing anger and attempt to grant forgiveness. This activity will touch on and assist in developing four of the dimensions of health and wellness including emotional, physical, social, and spiritual. These dimensions of health and wellness can be greatly impacted by unforgiveness and anger. Undertaking this activity is a start in a direction that will greatly benefit my health and wellness but continuing this path and the goals presented above will be probingly difficult to continue throughout my life. The stages of change (Hales & Lauzon, 2018), as discussed in chapter one, are the steps that must be considered and consistently worked on in order for something become a habit. In relation to this activity and the goals for health and wellness in relation to the stages of change, the continued change in my life will be very difficult to maintain as it is an area of difficulty that I have struggled with for a large part …show more content…
One of the most prominent scholars in the field who published numerous studies, Worthington E. (2004) defined the dimensions and types of forgiveness along with unforgiveness. There is no consensual definition of forgiveness that is agreed on by all scholars and it is a working definition. The working definition has been described and accredited to Worthington in many articles he has published. Worthington’s definition includes complex, cognitive, affective, behavioral, motivational, decisional, and interpersonal aspects which are connected and interrelated. Forgiveness is broken down into two dimensions: emotional, emotion-driven motivation and decisional, behavior intention (Worthington & Scherer, 2004). On the other side, unforgiveness is defined by Worthington and Scherer (2004) as a complex relationship between delayed negative emotions directed to an individual who disobeyed personal boundaries either physically or theoretically. It is demonstrated literature that unforgiveness is connected to a variety of health effects; these include an increase in cytokines which dysregulates that immune system, an increase in cortisol which is a stress hormone correlated to trait (consistent) unforgiveness and negative effects on the cardiovascular system (Worthington & Scherer, 2004).