Who, must navigate the delicate balance between their family‘s traditional values and the dominant culture’s expectations. On one hand, she embraces her American identity, participating in traditions like carving a pumpkin and trick-or-treating for Halloween. Yet, she still maintains a strong interest in the culture and history of her parents’ homeland. But this challenging balance is made most apparent when Lilia is made aware of the war going on in Pakistan, her parent’s home country, and afterward has to go to school where “[n]o one.talked about the war [they] followed so faithfully in [her] living room” (Lahiri 4). She is faced with a disconnect between her own sheltered, American experience and the realities of the postcolonial world. The war, which had previously been a distant and abstract concept, now takes on a tangible and personal experience through Mr.Pizada, who has family back home. She feels isolated and like an outsider because no one can relate to her experience, especially in her American school. This internal conflict is exasperated by the different expectations placed on Lilia by her parents and the dominant American