He does things the way he was raised. He wants to be the one who always shows initiative first. For example, he wants to buy Sophia a drink even though she insisted on buying him one first. Also has to be the one that calls first. As for Ira and Ruth, I notice Ruth wears the pants the in relationship and she seems to be more forward on going on dates. Especially in the beginning when Ira was too nervous to even talk to her. When they first started dating she mad Ira get dressed up to go see a movie because that’s how they did things where she came from. So in all how the way they communicate their love is by their accustomed way of growing