In chapter 12, “‘Darry yells too much and tries too hard and takes everything too serious, and Ponyboy, you don't think enough, you don't realize all Darry's giving up just to give you a chance he missed out on’”(Hinton 175-176). This quote relates to the theme because before this conversation, Ponyboy thought that Darry didn’t like him because he was always yelling at him. He now realizes that Darry wants to make sure he grows up differently from the rest of the gang. He doesn’t want Ponyboy to be stuck working two jobs like he did. He just wants Ponyboy to go to college and make something of his life.
All in all, a theme in The Outsiders is you should get to know a person’s other side or personality. Otherwise, you will judge them for things you are not entirely certain about, which would make you the bad person. Bob, Dally and Darry all had other sides. Ponyboy just had to understand them and find