You can spot these individuals immediately because all their action revolve around making them look good instead of the focus being on the best interest of those under them. The military has traditions that may seem like a small thing to outsiders but for those serving they speak volumes. One such tradition is that ALL the lower ranking soldiers get to eat first, then the higher ranking NCO’s and finally the officers. This shows the troops that you have their best interest at heart. When I served with one particular 1SG and Commander that routinely went to the front of the line it was a major disappointment that they would put their welfare and comfort before those they were in charge of. Again this may sound like a small detail to a civilian, but it is blasphemy in the military. When I confronted the 1SG about this and numerous other example of his poor leadership style he became angry and combative. It was not a pleasant exchange and I paid a price but I had to do the right thing for my soldiers. Calling out a leader that you clash with is not a fun experience. It is human nature to deny and defend what they did wrong but at least you give them the opportunity to evaluate their action and hopefully change course in the future. Using tact to minimize the escalation of tensions are the best way to approach these situations, remember that your goal is the care of the people you are in charge of, not seeing who can win an