Soldiers felt obligated to go to war unless they would fell guilty. This guilty is bolstered by the guilt of not being "masculine" enough—not being brave, heroic, and patriotic enough. O'Brien feel guilt to himself just like O'Brien's friends' as survivors. Norman Bowker feels guilty of not winning The Silver Star of Valor. He thinks he would win the war if he had not failed to save Kiowa's life in "Speaking of Courage." Shame and guilt follow Bowker and he commits suicide. The soldiers even feel guilt about the deaths of the enemy. In "The Man I Killed" O'Brien throws a grenade to kill an anonymous young man. After seeing his friends die, he can't help but understand that the man he killed is just like O'Brien himself. Every story in The Things They Carried is riddled with feelings of shame and guilt. It is a feeling, that no soldier in Vietnam was able to