We still have adoption, but we have other choices and rights in how we want to start a family. For example, we have the right to raise our own children, the right to name them whatever we want, and we have the right to put them up for adoption if we think we’re not ready for children. Getting spouses is also a lot harder in our society than it is in Jonas’s world. In our society you are forced to “look good”, and “be a gentleman or a fine lady”, in order to even have a chance to get someone to like you and eventually become your spouse. But in the end, we mess all of our relationships up, so why should we even try? In Jonas’s society you apply, wait a little bit, and get a random spouse you don’t even know anything about, besides what their interests are. Another thing that is different about the societies is the way they mourn deaths of family members. We both still mourn deaths, but in the book, Jonas’s society has the idea called the Ceremony of Loss. So when Caleb died, “The entire community performed the Ceremony of Loss together, murmuring the name Caleb throughout an entire day, less and less frequently, softer in volume, as the long and somber day went on,” (Lowry