Many of us have experienced the loss of a relationship that was very important to us. Whether a person died, cheated, or divorced, there's pain. Unforgivable pain. We use the term "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade." That's what many says is the theme in Beyoncé's "Lemonade." But what does that even mean, and how can it help with understanding and experiencing grief after the loss of a relationship? Read on to find out what happens during each stage of grief during/after the loss of a relationship.
Grief is characterized in five stages, not necessarily in this order.
1. Denial-
Denial is sometimes the first reaction to life changing or extremely hurtful situations. Denial is a defense mechanism that provides a temporary, sometimes short response that helps us not experience the reality of immediate pain.
Example of denial related to relationship loss:
•Not accepting that the relationship is over
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Depression happens once we realize that the efforts to fix or ignore the situation are not working. Some experience extreme sadness, guilt and worry that makes it impossible for us to complete daily activities.
Example of depression related to relationship loss:
•Being so grief stricken that one is unable to go to work, or even get out of the bed
•Poor concentration
•Neglecting personal hygiene
•Decrease or increase in appetite
•Not taking care of kids
•Job loss
5. Acceptance-
many people do not get to this stage. Those who do allow themselves to come to terms with the loss. It is understand that acceptance does not equal happiness, but does not indicate depression either. Acceptance is being able to effectively cope with the loss.
Example of acceptance related to relationship loss:
•Decreased anger
•Forgiveness
•Possible reconciliation
Grief can be complicated, but you don't have to do it alone. Experiencing and feeling disconnected from someone you love is heartbreaking, I get that. Choose to find someone to help you get through the rough patches, that can offer a hug, a listening, ear or a shoulder to cry on. If you feel like you're going to hurt yourself, or someone else, call 911, go to the nearest ER, or call the National Suicide